Saturday, June 30, 2012

六月的最后一篇日记


继热水器坏了之后,空调也坏了,正等着下星期五的更换。在这样的时候盛夏终于得意地来了。



玉米地的成长很快,昨天去比了比高,已经把我比下去了。爸爸妈妈只是遗憾,那些鹿们躲在玉米地里再也看不见了。



我说,有一组照片,可以叫做我的父亲母亲和玉米地。爸爸说,他正在酝酿一组照片叫做“庭院生灵”,拍的是在院子里的红鸟,蓝鸟,松鼠,任何可能来拜访的小动物们。



父亲母亲和玉米地的highlight已经发生过了,是爸爸和那头小梅花鹿的亲密接触。那一接触,足足让我们三个人回味了好几天。



每天去上班,妈妈会用她不怎么样的普通话说:过好一天哦。什么时候她学会了中文版的Have a good day. 大概是我早上开车出门前总说:这一天要过得开心。妈妈还是聪明。



最近我们在练习juggling,两个小沙袋。都有小小的进步。每晚都看一部叫金婚的电视连续剧。婆婆妈妈的,有的没的。最逗爸爸妈妈高兴的是我学剧中人物的东北口音,说话腔调,和争吵逻辑。



妹妹阿歪一家的签证全通过了。原来只是说说的“我们一定要去美国玩”的想法,即将真实地发生!



今年的体检报告回来了:体重轻两磅,身高还是没长;白细胞低于正常值,医生觉得没关系;糖衣血红蛋白偏高,医生对我的每天摄糖量微微皱了皱眉;维他命D偏低,医生对我的每天不喝牛奶有点意见;此外,其他一切都很棒,医生不吝啬地给于表扬。



陈丹青的笑谈大先生很精彩。尽管他说,“还原”鲁迅是很难的,重要的也不是去还原鲁迅,重要的事我们必须发生根本的变化。但对读者如我,还是在陈丹青的演讲稿中更清楚地看到鲁迅的魅力,鲁迅的力量,和他所处的那个时代的某种宝贵性。



“只是因为在人群中多看了你一眼。。。。。。”

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

爸爸妈妈在之二


这几天开始惦记着好久没写的日记和罗马游记。周末的时候,坐在明亮的房间里,木桌上堆着书,报纸,爸爸妈妈的茶杯,和我的电脑,我却写不出来。明明有好多想记录的东西。爸爸妈妈在这里,我似乎丧失了安静记录的能力。不在工作的时候,我总是想着他们,是不由自主地。



就象现在,妈妈斜躺在她最喜欢的转椅上织毛衣,她很少能够清闲着坐着什么也不做,手上必须做点什么。我想知道,她在织毛衣的时候在想什么。爸爸在桌子的对面看书,永远是正确的坐姿,和书保持适当的距离,表情一如既往的严肃。我偷偷地看了好几眼,确定爸爸微微皱眉的严肃表情后面是投入是兴趣。成功地推荐了第一本书,高尔泰的远离家园,爸爸目前在看第二本:陈丹青的“笑谈大先生”。每天爸爸都要和我“汇报”看书心得,通常都是毫无起承地开始。他习惯把事情归纳到社会问题政治问题,我试图把谈话从政治拉到生活的通俗哲学或者生活观,交集是历史。



我们三,在一起说很多的话。我可喜地发现自己耐心十足,逗他们笑的功力不减当年;也惴惴地发现,时不时地,好像要教育他们,要他们看到看人看事情对待生活的多种角度。除了铆足了劲让他们高兴外,总是下意识地要影响亲爱的爸爸妈妈,不知道这点把戏被看穿了没。



爸爸说:好几年没看书了,以为大脑已经只适合读报,不适合读厚厚的书。现在读得很过瘾,越读越觉得自己思想肤浅。我窃喜,也为爸爸骄傲。



爸爸说:你看书太快,一目十行,对有些好书,应该细读。我说:好的,下一本书会放慢速度看。



爸爸说:我有些狭隘需要克服。我说:有些狭隘是人的天性,我也是,克服后海阔天空。事实上,克服后最大的受益者是咱们自己。



我问:爸爸,你为什么一拍照片就要站成一颗钉子的模样。爸爸说:因为我矮,想把自己拔高点。我说:爸爸你在我心目中很高大,不需要为照片拔高。爸爸说:太感动了,谢谢你。



关于“妈妈说”,另外再记。



有爸爸妈妈在,我更喜欢明亮的家,小小的院子,院子里所有的植物,家里家外的绿色。有爸爸妈妈在,我更多地抬头看天,看飞机飞过都要喊一声,喜欢上家附近的那片玉米地,常在饭后走去那里,看玉米的茁壮成长,。有爸爸妈妈在,我吃得更健康更多样。有爸爸妈妈在,我更认识自己,更学着要承担。



昨天一天上班忙得四脚朝天,晚饭后,跑去看那片玉米。三个人玩正步走的游戏,观望远远的出没于玉米地的鹿,说说笑笑的。我拉过妈妈的手,搂着爸爸的肩,不知道为什么,那瞬间很感动。妈妈似乎感应到,使劲地握了握我的手。



刚刚整理了一些照片。周末出去郊游,爸爸妈妈说,他们带不走这么好看的风景,就想多带回些照片,美好的记忆。

Monday, June 4, 2012

Parents are here!

When I told people that my parents are here and will be living with me for 5 months, there are two kinds of reactions: Your parents can keep you company and the dinner will be ready when you go home. Isn’t that nice? Or living with parents under the same roof for 5 months? Isn’t it a little too long?


As a matter of fact, my parents’ willingness to stay here for 5 month was a result of having a good time when they first visited US and lived with me for about 3 months. I secretly took pride in it, not only taking good care of them, but more importantly entertaining them. I spent every single spare minute with them, traveling, playing, shopping, and chatting. Hadn’t read one book or written one diary in those 3 months. But I was happy and seeing my parents happy made me happier.

Can I do the same this time? When my parents were taking a nap after lunch, I went to the library. Although having left them a note, I noticed myself being in a hurry, almost running between the book shelves and running towards the car. What if they woke up without seeing me in the house?…I got back home, opened the door, and saw them doing perfectly fine, dad reading newspaper and mom knitting.

I took them to Tyler State Park yesterday. The weather was perfect. We really enjoyed the walk, the sunshine, the breeze, the greenness, the corn field, the creek and the picnic. I know I will still be the helpless “parents pleaser”, but should relax more this time and continue to do things I normally do, maybe less frequently. For example, finish the book I have been reading, organize the remaining pictures from the Italy trip and write the travel journal about Rome.

What I can do better this time are: cook more, bake more, do the housework more, help them observe the culture difference in the daily life and strategically influence my dad reading more books. This list can continue to grow.